Featured Blog: 40+ Hours in a Car
Driving in a car with your spouse or significant other seems to always bring out some sort of conflict. It brings out the worst in one another. One is the back seat driver, one drives too fast, one drives dangerously, one does not pay enough attention, one has bad music taste, and the list could go on. The best thing about the car rides is that true colors always come out and typical topics do too.
Over the past month, we’ve spent over 40 hours in the car together. Always accompanied by Arya (our cat, who surprisingly loves car rides). Along with these 40 plus hours, we also had family and friends as guests to our crazy dynamic. No matter who was in the car, or how long we were driving, 4 main things happen that can be truly telling and comparable to how Stetson and I interact in our marriage.
These four things always end in what I think is the best part of these car rides, the one sign that no matter what, we are in it together. It is the one moment where after arguing about my car anxiety and his road rage, Stetson takes my hand and kisses the top of it. The smallest act with the biggest meaning, we will always be a team, regardless of our imperfections.
When you are in a car with somebody, your true colors come out. When you are in a marriage with that person, those colors are the reason why they fell in love with you in the first place. How could these four things relate to our marriage?
Two-sided podcasts: the two sides of our marriage, how he and I come together to make sense of the world around us. Stetson’s bad music: sacrifice, we all get a little annoyed sometimes, whether it be from bad music or not making the bed (let’s be real neither of us do that), but what that sacrifice means that we are giving part of our time for the other person to enjoy theirs just a little bit more. Road rage and car anxiety: realizing that we truly never are in control. Me being worried about what’s to come and Stetson wanting to do anything to ease it. It shows us that we are a team in and out of the car. We give up control, we sacrifice, and we are patient because that is what makes us, us.
Thanks to all those who endured and survived the podcasts, music, road rage and anxiety with us. You all mean so much to us and hope that we take a drive again soon.